Continuous Waves of Abundance

The rat race of modern life finds most of us chasing the idea of abundance and success. We want more money so we can live an easier life and yet, the more we earn, the more we need. Are we chasing something that is unreal? How much is enough? In my work as a PSYCH-K® facilitator, I am witness to the quest of many people for the ever elusive commodity of abundance. By far the most common is the quest for financial freedom. The world today revolves around money, whether you like it or not, we cannot live without it.

The book, The Law of Attraction: The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham by Esther and Jerry Hicks explains how we create our reality through thought. Without a doubt, there is power in positive thinking. So why are we not all wealthy, if all it takes is positive thought? Well, mainly because we have been “programmed” with the beliefs of our parents. “Money doesn’t grow on trees” or “money is the root of all evil” are beliefs which seem to be most common. But what about the belief that artists are poor or healing modalities should be offered for free? Reprogramming these beliefs is quick and easy with PSYCH-K®. It is more difficult to change the way we think.

Worry and negative thoughts are powerful creative tools too. And when it comes to positive thinking, we often have the wrong end of the stick. If I ask you NOT to think about pink elephants, you will immediately think of pink elephants. We draw what we focus our thoughts on. When I see a fancy car, I think about how it is beyond my reach, and in so doing, I am focused on the lack of that car. The more I see that which I cannot afford, the less I can afford. So how do I get myself out of this pattern?

Go for a beach walk…

A solution came to mind as I walked along the beach early one morning. I love walking on the beach. The wind blows away the cobwebs and I revel in the sensation of the sand below my feet and the water gently tugging at my ankles. With clear thought comes new insight. Never, not even once, have I arrived at the beach with the nagging fear that the ocean will have disappeared in the night. The tide may be high or low, but the sea is always there. It is constantly moving. Waves roll in like soldiers marching up the beach. In a turmoil of sea sand and broken shells, the water foams to a standstill before getting sucked back to sea, dancing with and through the other incoming waves on its way out.

My money is just like the sea. It is energetic. Like the sea, money likes flow, it doesn’t like to stagnate. It flows from person to person and from place to place. Money flows in as I am paid for my services and money flows out as I buy what I want or need. Some months the tide may be high, money wise, and other times there is a low spring tide.

If I can see my financial situation as fluid, always coming and going but never all gone, then I feel less stress and I am able to live in a more abundant feeling space. When I have unexpected expenses, I tell myself the tide is low. This feels so much better than thinking I have lost money, overspent, blown my budget. I know that the tide will turn, that flow will be restored. I focus on flow rather than lack.

Finding abundance in all areas of life…

But abundance is not just about money. When I focus on the abundance of nature all around me, it always lifts my spirits. Changing our mind-set means feeling grateful for the abundance of fresh air, not grumbling about the wind. We need to be able to see Nature’s abundance in the weedy flower bed and the night time chorus of crickets. We are surrounded by abundance. It may not always be to our liking, but it is undeniable. According to the Law of Attraction, the more I focus on abundance of any sort, the more abundance I will see.

Moving to the seaside was a scary decision but I have learnt two important things this year. Dress like an onion (in layers) and view life like the ocean… Whether the tide be high or low, have faith that everything will always work out just as it is supposed to; perfectly.

If you would like to transform your abundance blocks, you can book a zoom session here . Its easy, effective and convenient. Overcome your blocks and Keep Moving…

Confessions of a Judger

I like to think of myself as a kind person, considerate and forgiving, non-judgmental , encouraging and supportive. For the most part, I am all of these things, but there is one particular person who really brought out the worst in me. Something about her just triggered all my worst judgments. I never supported or encouraged her. In fact I was the first one to cut her down at the ankles and tell her how stupid she was. She was never good enough for me. I pushed her beyond her limits and when she asked for a break, I berated her for her laziness. Every decision she made I second guessed. I was always amazed when, in a quiet moment together, she would confess that she thought she, too, was good enough to deserve the best in life. What a cheek, how dare she! Who did she think she was? I had to keep her in line all the time. No one liked her and I could tell her all the reasons why. She dressed wrong, she ate wrong, she never said the right thing. She was a total social misfit and I was embarrassed to be with her in public. She was constantly concerned about what other people thought of her and she tried to keep everyone happy all the time. Didn’t she know this was an impossible task, a game you can only lose?

Self Judgement is Toxic

I am sure there are many of you out there who are living the same lie as me. You all have someone who pushes all your buttons and no matter how hard you try, you can’t seem to feel forgiveness or compassion for them. This one person is the black mark on your record of being a “nice” person. You can’t help being really, really judgemental and nasty. You say things to this one person that you would never dream of saying to anyone else in your life. Some of you may not even be aware of your nastiness and disdain towards this one person. So let me ask you to answer this question honestly. Have you ever done something silly and muttered under your breath, “idiot!”, “fool”, “dimwit”? Of course you have. We all berate ourselves with words we would never dream of saying to another. We judge ourselves by super-standards which we would never expect of others. We are our own harshest critics, our own worst enemy.

Could this be because we see ourselves from the outside in? I learnt that my recipe for self-compassion was one of judgement rather than discernment. This drove my self-worth down to non-existence. My confidence was low, my self-image sucked and I re-acted in the same way over and over again, which only served to make me more and more unhappy. I knew I was very judgemental but to be quite honest, I didn’t know how NOT to be. My own lack of self-worth spilled over into other relationships and areas of my life and I felt alone, isolated in my own self-made misery with no idea how to stop the over-reactions which perpetuated my cycle of confusion. I tried everything but I had lost myself, I had no idea how to be, I just knew how I DIDN’T want to be anymore.

The Recipe of your Self Worth

Slowly, with time and lots of study, I began to crawl out of my dark place. I realised there is a recipe for many things in life, something which can be repeated to get the same result. We do this all the time and with great success. We create low self-worth, bad health, lack of confidence and many other “negative” outcomes on a daily basis, without realising that we are using a recipe to continuously create our own misery. Change the ingredients of the recipe and you will get a different result.  

Over time I have found, tried and tested a recipe for discernment. Just knowing the recipe is not enough, you have to apply it. Doing so on a daily basis has helped my confidence and self-worth tremendously. I no longer feel lost and confused. I re-act less to what happens around me and I am infinitely kinder to me. In fact I now know HOW to be compassionate with myself, I am even beginning to like who I am.

If you are feeling low on self-worth or self-confidence, contact me. Let me share my recipe with you. You ARE worth it.

Until next time… Keep Moving.

Inner Burdens

I spent last weekend doing the PSYCH-K® Master Facilitator course in Cape Town. The thing that stands out most is the power of this simple protocol. When you spend all those hours working together with other facilitators, there is a communal energy which fills the building and the shifts are profound.

I work alone most of the time, cut off from others in my field by mountains and the space of the little Karoo.  It is always a treat to share space with kindred spirits, sharing experience and learning new techniques. And it reaffirms the power of the work, and its ability to melt away resistance, and leave one feeling inspired and free from old tethers.

PSYCK-K® is all about removing limiting beliefs, and filling the void with new, positive and empowering belief systems. It is fascinating how we wrap our most secret truths and deepest hurts in a padding of seemingly innocuous thoughts. How many times over the weekend did I hear the words “I thought this was going to be a quick and easy balance”? The shifts were mental, physical and emotional, as we put down burdens we had been carrying around, sometimes for years.

Our subconscious is developed in the first six years of life, when we are downloading all that happens in our young lives. Unfortunately, our perceptions of our experiences are not always positive. This is how our limiting beliefs develop.  They will stay there, sabotaging our happiness until they are “reprogrammed” with better, supporting beliefs. So what is a limiting belief? Try “I am not good enough” or “Life is hard”, “There’s not enough love/money/time” or “I can’t study/do sport/lose weight.”  What is that little voice in your head saying, that inner critic? Or is your burden a memory, frozen in time, always ready to remind you that you are unworthy? The burden of things carried silently within us grows with every passing year. How do we put down these burdens? Where do we even begin?

The PSYCH-K® process is gentle and non-invasive. It is not necessary to rehash past hurts and talk about them endlessly. You can address past, present or future issues without sharing the details, very effectively. As your facilitator, I am there as a guide, to accompany you through your process, in a safe and supportive way. You can even work via telephone or internet, just as effectively, so no need to travel to find a facilitator. And just by the way, you are never too old to shift a limiting belief or to put down a burden.

The lighter the load, the easier it is to keep moving…