Life de-‘FINE’d

Everyone knows it’s not cool to complain so we speak in code instead. You bump into a friend and exchange greetings. “How are you?”  How often do you use the word FINE to convey the politically correct, seemingly all happy response? FINE can mean many things, but it rarely means fine; the dictionary definition of the word which is…  “quite well or satisfactory, in a good, acceptable or comfortable condition” (Encarta Dictionary).

If you have just come from unsuccessfully trying to query your municipal account, you are probably feeling Flippin’ Irate, Nettled and Explosive. But we don’t generally feel this way all the time. A new Mum may be Feeling Isolated, Near tears and Exhausted while someone who has started their own business may be buried in Filing, Invoicing, Networking and Excel sheets. Someone who suffers from depression may find themselves Feeling Ignored, Negated and Exiled. Many of us are trying to lose weight but when we are not coping with life, and when we are feeling Flipping Insecure Neurotic and Emotional, we Feel an Intense Need to Eat.

You may argue that it’s OK to say FINE, that maybe you are having a good day. Wouldn’t it be better to say “I feel amazing, thank you”, fantastic, glorious, awesome, inspired perhaps? This is what I call a “Quick Fix” for your toolbox. Just saying these words puts a spark in your day and a little more spring in your step. It lifts your spirits and those of the people you meet. We are so serious and so afraid to be happy lest we shine too brightly. Happiness is contagious, or so the saying goes, but I find that heavier emotions like worry and doubt seem to poison a room so quickly. Happiness dissolves like mist in the morning sun and gloom descends. Everyone is FINE. Work is FINE. School is FINE.

Next time you catch yourself using FINE to define your day, figure out what it stands for and then choose a better word, one which uplifts and inspires you. We make our lives what they are. We choose the narrative. So make your life a better one by choosing better words.

If you find your life to be FINE and you don’t seem to be able to lift yourself to brighter things, contact me and we can set up a free session to help you define what is missing and how to move forward and Keep Moving.

Healthy Hips, Healthy Life

Many things affect the health of our hips and today, more and more people are living with hip pain and hip replacements. Are we destined to crumble at the hips or is there something we can do to keep these joints healthy? Can we really take our health into our own hands and have a say in how we age. I believe we can.

It is easy to fear what we don’t understand and fear stops us from thinking clearly. We are led to believe that we have no control over what happens to our body. We grow old, we get sick or break and then we die. We don’t understand how the body works.  So, let’s make it simple, less scary… I like to think of the body as a bag of skin filled with sticks (our bones) and elastics (our muscles). Our body works on a supply and demand principle. What we need, we will absorb and what we don’t need gets flushed from the system. One of the first places where osteoporosis develops is in the hips and pelvis. The more we sit and drive, the less we use our muscles. And the less we use the muscles the less they pull on the bones to which they are attached. If the bones aren’t pulled on, then they don’t need to be strong so the body won’t absorb calcium that it doesn’t need, even if you are taking calcium supplements regularly. Walking is a fantastic way to keep the bones strong and healthy. The gentle impact and weight bearing both serve to stimulate the need for strong bones. But walking doesn’t use all the hip muscles and getting to some of them requires internal and external rotations which are not part of our daily movements. In my Conscious Movement classes we focus a lot on hips; rotating the bones of the hips in their sockets, moving the pelvis in all ranges and weight bearing on one or both legs. We stimulate the proprioceptors in the hips (which tell your brain where you are in space) to help with balance and we do Rhythmic Movement Training exercises to address reflex integration. I find that my regular clients are strong and healthy. Even when things go wrong, because life happens and gravity sucks, most of the time my clients have returned to class with bruises and a tale to tell rather than pins and plates and screws. When you work your joints regularly and move your bones in unusual ways, you find that you have more bounce and less snap.

Age is not a number; it’s a state of being. And you always have a choice. If you want to have less snap and more bounce, you have to Keep Moving…

Chocolate or Vanilla

Imagine baking a delicious, chocolate cake. You would need cocoa and chocolate and all the other yummy things which make a cake chocolate. Now imagine that you bake a chocolate cake every week. After a while you start to get bored with chocolate cake and decide you would like a vanilla cake for a change. You gather all your delicious chocolate ingredients, mix them together and put the cake in the oven to bake. You have heard about the power of positive thinking, so while your cake bakes you focus on it being a delicious, vanilla cake. You smell the vanilla, you taste the vanilla, you see the delicate pale cake in your minds eye. Imagine your disappointment when a chocolate cake emerges from the oven. “So much for positive thinking,” you think to yourself. But people tell you to persevere, so you do, week after week, and it’s always a chocolate cake.
This is how we live our lives, always doing the same things, and expecting life to get better. You need to go back and look at how you are doing life. What are your ingredients? Make a new list of ingredients and then bravely mix a different cake. It may take some trial and error, some flops and failures, but you will get there if you keep trying. When you invent a new recipe for your cake, you will need to look back at the last attempt and see how it can be improved. Or will you get wrapped up in the misery of failure and go back to baking a chocolate cake, all the time complaining about how unlucky you are and how miserable life is when all you can bake is chocolate cake.
Failures are only bad when we ignore the opportunities they offer us to learn and improve. Positive thinking alone is not worth much when we keep doing the same things in the same way. If you want a different life, you need to do life differently. Being positive changes your perspective but you have to take action to initiate change. Here is a challenge to get you started… Choose one thing which your inner voice tells you to start doing but you don’t. Or one thing which you know you need to stop doing and don’t, you just ignore it, you put it off for another day.
Make that day today. Do it, tick it off, get it done. By doing one thing differently you will have changed the recipe of your life. Just like using vanilla in a cake instead of cocoa. Life is a really big cake with lots and lots of ingredients, but if you change it just a little every day, it will be quite different in a month or a year.
It just takes one change to break the inertia. After that it will be easier to keep moving…